My children were beautiful. I had a beautiful life. I had a beautiful birth. Why did everything feel so heavy? I recognized the signs, it was the same as last time (after Charlie was born) but this time I acknowledged that it wasn’t normal to feel this way. This was not how mothers just feel. This was not circumstantial depression. This was intense postpartum depression and anxiety. My usual ‘just do it’ attitude slipped away, and I was a shell of my usually charismatic self.
“ I remember the senior midwife encouraging me, telling me how wonderfully I was doing, and not to push. I felt no need to - my body was doing this completely on its own. One more surge and our beautiful baby boy Jem arrived earthside, less than 15 minutes after arriving at the hospital. I simply couldn't believe it!”Read More
If there was one recipe that truly made my heart sing, for both its simplicity and deliciousness AND as a side note, its health benefits… this is THE one.Read More
There’s something really special about a meal that is both nourishing and quick …and that everyone in the family will actually eat! Soup is quick and easy to make in the cooler months and perfect for nourishing bodies that are both growing babies and recovering from birthing them.Read More
“When you imagine what being a mother looks like, what is that picture that pops into your mind?”, and you know what? No-one ever says that they picture themselves cleaning and cooking, being exhausted, overwhelmed and isolated…. and yet that’s what most mothers reality is. They all (myself included) imagine all the warm fuzzy stuff, and the feelings of love and contentedness. Imagine the disappointment though when that wondrous time comes along and it looks nothing like what you imagined!Read More
The birth room had an amazing view across Bendigo city skyline; I took the time to enjoy it while the adrenalin passed, and we marvelled at your perfection. I felt proud of my strength to get through your birth, and to do so without intervention.
Did you know that two thirds of mothers don’t reach their breastfeeding goals? Given that there’s 1 baby born every 1.48 minutes in Australia, that is A LOT of mothers who are not meeting their goals.
As time went on I started focussing on her heartbeat and tuning into that was all the music and relaxation I needed. I felt myself able to fully relax and get a rest between surges and when they came I remained calm in the knowledge they would be over soon.
Many couples spend a lot of time planning and preparing for birth (and rightly so) but they forget to plan and prepare for the postnatal period, when things can be most challenging and overwhelming. Whether your vision for after birth looks joyous or overwhelming you will benefit from preparing for this time by ensuring you have the support and encouragement you need to achieve the postnatal period YOU WANT and DESERVE.Read More
As I was breathing baby down, I had even more intense pain, which again diverted my focus, but with my HypnoBirthing training I was able to recognise this and bring myself back into the moment. I still had moments where I felt I was losing control but for most surges I was able bring myself together.
I remember asking at one point what stage of labor I was at and the midwife said transition! I did a fist pump and said hell yes if this is transition I've got this in the bag! There was not one second where I was scared or where it hurt. It was just beautful.
I hadn't considered that the very normal, unremarkable thing I had just done, would intrigue and excite so many people. I didn't feel that the way my daughter was born was remarkable.... I still don't. Women all around the world give birth in cars, on footpaths, in the bush, in their laundries, in shopping centres etc etc every.single.day.
In the words of one of my clients (I changed it for the title because I was worried threat of violence might put people off! haha):
“If one more person tells me I’m never going to sleep again, I’m going to punch them in the face! We didn’t choose to have a baby without knowing it was going to affect our sleep!”.
I get it, its frustrating when people make remarks without backing it up with any tips or tricks to actually be helpful. But thats what this blog is about today.
I truly believe that all mothers, given the space, support and encouragement to do so, really truly know how to nurture their babies the way they need to be nurtured. That if they are supported in this space of uncertainty and encouraged to try different things that feel right to them, a mother can flourish and ignore the outside advice of ‘experts’.
I breathed and sat on the toilet and lent over everything haha this baby was turning! My labour went great and before I new it I was 10cm dilated I had a huge smile on my face when they told me! At 9.23am my baby girl Evelyn Joan Carr was born!
After a couple of very concerning doctors visits Larissa went on to birth her beautiful daughter without the much feared and unwanted caesarian that she had been ‘threatened’ with. Here is her beautiful story:
‘I had my baby girl on the 11th(of September), waters broke abit on the 9th my due date but bubs head was blocking the rest coming as she was so low. Didn’t start real labour, my surges were very mild and irregular, I stayed in hospital over night as I went in on the 10th, and was on my own when labour kicked in at 3:30 am the 11th, after being told I had till 7am to have baby or have a c- section as it was 48 hrs after my waters first broke, I was given antibiotics so didn’t get infection, they were very strong and lot of it was felt in my back. I wasn’t sure what was going to happen and I was put on monitors, was listening to the birthing affirmations and rainbow relaxation, I breathed best I could and felt better if I stood up.
I texted Ritchy throughout. He couldn’t get there as we only had a baby sitter set for 7:30 to stay with Xavier at home. My surges felt like time passed quick and the midwives didn’t check my for dilating as I was not having regular surges yet. I had some close together and stronger and longer then I went to toilet and already felt that urge to push or bear down. It all happened so fast I couldn’t think, I wasn’t that relaxed fully to be out of it enough to fully control the urge not to push, so my body pushed down and I breathed and went with my body, after being rushed to a birth room, Dakota Ivy was born 10 minutes later with only about 5 pushes.
Ritchy got there 1.22 minutes late poor thing was upset he missed it, I felt such joy and healing after a c-section that I did it. I did it alone and the breathing and visualisation help me. I had a good midwife that helped me in the delivery room, they were shocked and amazed how it happened. I did it on no pain relief or gas. I only had a small tear on the inside, Ritchy helped me through that stage which was great and had to use gas for that part. Thanks so much for ur course and ur guidance. Larissa’
A huge congratulations to Larissa, Ritchy and Xavier on welcoming little Dakota Ivy. May she always brighten your day a little more than the day before.
(This birth story is from 2014 and has been moved over to this new website)
‘A new mum should be treated with massage, warm baths, a specific diet and herbal drinks that prevent infection, promote vitality and alleviate vata’ Charaka, father of AyurvedaRead More
I still thought I was ages away from transition or the birth, but Adam told me later that the midwife had told him I was close! It was a good way to be, as I had in my mind “it’ll get worse so I won’t want pain relief yet”. But I was actually already at the strongest point, it was nowhere near as bad as I thought it may be!
Whether it be using Hypnobirthing or not, a woman's strength when she truly gives in to her body's innate ability to birth and really go in to herself, trusting every fibre of her being to birth her baby, is truly breathtaking.
My husband starting packing everything into the car while shouting loving encouragement from afar every time he heard me breathing through the next surge. All of a sudden I was involuntarily pushing and I remember saying “uh oh” I knew it was too late. Chelsea
Writing birth preferences can be challenging to say the least, its not always about the actual content but often more about bringing awareness to your choices in the process of writing it up. Birth preferences are not a list of inflexible demands but merely a list of carefully considered preferences to be followed in the absence of medically indicated interventions.Read More